Since my first child is on the way, I wanted to give some advice to men, women, and parents. I realize that at 33 I am not exactly a sage elder, but have been thinking about these issues for some time, and I have made some valid observations. As I type this I think about the little bloke growing inside of my wife, but this advice applies to others as well.
The government is not your friend, neither is academia. Bear that in mind as you go through life and make career choices. As you go through education you are going to be bombarded with hate, which will gradually increase the higher you get in education. You will feel like complaining and lashing out. If you wish to do so online, do so with a false username and no profile picture. While we still legally have freedom of speech, complaining against the establishment is considered “heresy” and you could be excommunicated. Basically, you could find yourself blacklisted for “incorrect”/”hate speech” and be unable to get any job other than standing behind a register having to play nice to people with less education and lower intellect than what you have.
There are three groups that it is currently in vogue to hate on, whites, males, and Christians (to a lesser extent Jews, but this is only for Zionist Jews who support Israel). If you happen to be all three, then you already have three strikes against you. You will get no scholarships or job opportunities based on your demographics, while others around you will. You will have no advocacy groups on your side, so don’t count on any help outside of your family. You have to be “wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove.”
Also, remember that as a male, and especially a white(ish) male, the government views you as both a potential domestic enemy, and a resource to be harvested for money. They don’t care about you, except for what you can do for them. If the Democrats (or any other left wing party) can’t rely on you for votes, then they will rely on you for money, or as the poster boy of hate in order to rally the voters they can count on to come out and vote against your interests (think “1884” two minutes of hate: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t4zYlOU7Fpk ).
If you become politically active then it is in your best interest to ALWAYS advocate for LESS government. More government is never going to be your friend, and it is not going to provide you with much (if any) opportunities. You will be the last to benefit from any bureaucratic jobs it creates (at tax payer expense) because you are white(ish) and male. If you’re not white at all, but still male, then you still won’t be first in line for a government job because of your genitalia. However, for the sake of honor I recommend against working for the government, as they generate no revenue, and you are in fact paid by the tax payer. Your job is at the expense of someone else’s hard work, and at the expense of a revenue generating private sector job. A real man does not want to live off of others, and the more independent you are the better your self-esteem and mental health will be.
In the current depressed economy, who you know is more important than what you know. Make friends as you go through school, both with peers and with superiors like college professors and potential employers. If you are an introvert (like me), this will be hard to do, and even painful and wearisome, but it must be done. The days when you could get a degree, and immediately get into a vocation based on that degree are gone (unless perhaps you are a “minority” or woman, but even then you still may not). People with connections get jobs.
Don’t get any degree which does not line up with a particular job/vocation, otherwise you are wasting your time and money, and even so you may still not get a job. Having a degree for the sake of a degree is not that helpful. Better you go to a trade school than get a liberal arts degree which does not lead to any job. What is in demand now is people with scientific and technical degrees. Everything else has very little use. If you don’t have any clear plan in mind, then hold off on going to college. Do not use college, and time, money, etc., to “find yourself.” Get a plan before you go.
Do not have sex before marriage. You will certainly have the urge, and I can understand that (it’s normal, part of our anatomy), but the rewards of pre-marital sex do not outweigh the risks. The risk of an STD is always there. The kind of women who sleep around or who give it up easily are more likely to be an STD farm, and they are also likely to lie about it. Don’t believe that women don’t like to have sex. They may not always (or usually) be the initiators, but they have sex at higher rates than we do: https://screen.yahoo.com/videos-for-you/minn-native-starts-national-dialogue-033700136.html
From ages 20 to 24 only 12.6% of women are still virgins, while 14.4% of men retain their virginity during the same age range. The point is, just because she acts like sex is not a priority does not mean that it isn’t, and that a dangerous woman won’t lie to get it. Don’t give in.
If you give in and have sex there are some unfortunate and life changing things that can happen to you, aside from STD’s. If you have sex with a woman and she feels ashamed about it, or angry with you for any reason, there is a good chance she will cry rape. If she accuses you of rape, there is a good chance you will be kicked out of whatever university you are in. A lot of these cry rape women go to the university before they go to the cops, because they know that the university is more likely to do something before all the evidence is in. HOWEVER, there is a chance you may also face legal action or be seized by the police based on her accusations. You may have to go to court, and even if you are absolved you still lost time and money, and there is always the chance that the stigma of the accusation will remain.
Keep in mind that there is an impetus to convict and punish men based only on the word of a woman (sort of like how women are treated in Islam, but with the genders reversed). There are also myths about “rape culture” being pushed forward, and there are women agitating for paternity tests to be made illegal.
If you have sex and the woman becomes pregnant then you run the risk of being hammered with child support payments, while being denied access to the child. Remember, the default position of the legal system, the media, and academia is that the woman is right and the man is wrong. In any conflict you have to fight an uphill battle, which is why it is better to avoid these sorts of conflicts in the first place.
Work out and be physically fit. Not only will this equip you to deal with more situations, but it will also give you more bargaining power with the opposite sex. It should also ameliorate the aging process. Remember, Moses was still climbing mountains when he was over 100. Cultivating physical strength is the best way to defy the aging process. Better to die strong than weak if you can help it. The culture is changing so that it is becoming increasingly more dangerous to be old. In the past old people were respected, but now we have growing numbers of disaffected youth and hostile 3rd worlders who deliberately and unscrupulously target old people. Work out first, and then play your videogames (if you must).
Avoid dark sodas, they weaken your joints.
Also avoid fast food, most of it is just slop boiled in grease, and you never know how many bug parts you will be eating, or live bugs for that matter. My wife found an insect in a sandwich we got from Arbies once, and before she could get it out it burrowed into the bun. I didn’t even look inside my sandwich that day, so who knows what I got?
If you have zits don’t pick at them, because you could end up having a spreading bacterial colony growing across your face, and the primary goal of a lot of the doctors is to get you to buy some drug rather than curing whatever ails you. Disease is money. I say this because of personal experience.
Finding a Mate:
A lot of men have one concept for their ideal date, and a different concept for their ideal mate. This type of thinking is flawed. There should be no difference between who you would like to marry and who you would like to date. Seek out the most traditional woman you can find for marriage.
Clubs and bars are not a good place to look for a wife. Drinking should not be one of the “ties that binds.” Drinking is destructive, even if it feels good. I know the women in the clubs can be sexy, but more likely than not that is their only redeeming quality. Better to avoid the clubs in order to keep from falling into bad company and bad temptations.
If you want to marry someone from your local area use the local churches, or campus Christian fellowships. But I advise against restricting yourself to your local area. A lot of the so-called “Christian” women these days have a “story” or a “past.” Maybe the past is in the past, as they say, but you don’t know that for sure. They could be giving their story as a legitimate testimony, or as a ploy for pity.
If you go online do not allow your emotions to get involved with any woman until she checks out as a positive match. Do not proceed with a woman who refuses to come in front of a webcam or give you her phone number. If she flat out refuses, or comes up with a list of convenient excuses then she is probably a scammer. Remember, you have a mission to complete, and lost time is water under the bridge which you can never get back.
Looking abroad for a wife opens up a sea of possibilities, much better than you can get locally, but also less convenient. To pursue a woman online requires patience, and it is not for everyone, but the potential rewards are far greater than any costs incurred. I recommend Ukraine, Russia, India, China, or South Korea. Eastern women, and non-western white women are the best deal you can get when considering both looks and personality. Most of my experience is with India, so I can put my recommendation behind it.
There is a lot of hype and romance surrounding the idea of getting a woman from Japan, but the odds are you will not get one. Japan is a first world country which is cleaner and safer than most western countries, so they aren’t eager to leave it. Also, their numbers are in the decline just like ours are.
Avoid Mexico. There is nothing that a Mexican woman has that a white American woman does not. If you like Mexican food then stick with the restaurants. Mexicans, and other Central Americans, are eager to flood into the US and will pursue any avenue to get here, legal or otherwise. If they will ride a train or walk through a desert then at least some of them will certainly marry you to get here. Even if they stick with you, they are coming from a less developed culture so it will be harder for them to relate to you and identify with you. I wouldn’t necessarily write off a fully assimilated Mexican woman who was born in the US, speaks without an accent, and identifies with our values (and does not buy into the anti-white, anti-American culturally Marxist agenda), but importing someone from Mexico is a no-go, as is becoming involved with one who is still part of that culture. The reality is most Mexicans are not onboard with white people and western culture, and are not going to be.
Also I recommend avoiding Philippine women. I don’t have anything against them, and I have no direct experience with them, but they are way too eager to marry out. It seems they are even more eager to marry out than the black American man. If one gender of a group is that down on themselves then there is probably a serious problem, or a series of problems in their culture, and you don’t need that noise. Also, those kinds of women are more interested in you for what you’re not than what you are.
Relationships and Marriage:
When you do finally find a potential mate, you may have all sorts of pent up emotions and/or hormones waiting to burst out. The best thing you can do is control that. As I said before, no sex before marriage, but aside from that, you need to control how you act. Keep the slop/mush talk to a minimum. Also keep gifts to a minimum. At the beginning of a relationship you are probably going to have the urge to pour on the slop, and women like that, but they are going to expect you to continue to do whatever it is you are doing at the beginning of the relationship, and once the novelty of being in a relationship wears of you aren’t going to have the emotional energy or inclination to continue at those levels. You will calm down, which is why it is better to keep calm in the first place.
The same is true of gifts. Keep gifts and eating out to a minimum. Don’t use that stuff to buy a woman’s affection, because if you do, then you are conditioning her to expect it, and over the long term that is going to be very hard on your wallet. But you must also keep crafted gifts to a minimum. I had one girlfriend who wanted me to draw her pictures all the time. What she wanted was the same thing, pictures of us together, and she wanted me to draw her new pictures a multiple times a year (maybe about every other month). Since she was not an artist, she had no way of reciprocating in kind, and she also had no idea what it was like to be an artist (we have to be inspired and are largely internally motivated, revisiting the same subject over and over again is boring for us, and the less motivated we are the harder it is for us to produce, and the longer it takes). It was very stressful for me to keep that up, and the rewards of keeping it up were small in proportion to the efforts I put in.
Keep your gifts to a minimum, that way when you do produce a gift it will be more appreciated.
Make it clear to the woman from the very beginning that you are in charge. If they can’t except that condition then don’t bother with them, and find another woman instead. The natural order is for the man to be in charge, and both you and the woman will be happier if that order is in place.
When you do get married, you are going to have some problems. Living with someone for a long protracted amount of time can be intense, and you will discover new things about that person that you like and dislike. This is just part of life and human interaction, no matter how ideal of a match you are there are going to be some issues. It’s better to power through them, keeping in mind the wisdom of your ancestors, that marriage is for life, and it requires work, commitment, and maintenance. There is no La La Land.
Family is the backbone of society, and it is better to have a strong family than a weak family. If the family is divided, contentious, unfaithful, and broken, then the culture and society will also be divided, contentious, unfaithful, and broken. You can’t help what society does, but you can help what you do. Do your part to build a good strong family, and you will also be doing your part to build a good strong society.
Don’t screw up. That may sound overly simplistic, but there are a few choices I made as a younger man that drastically changed the course of my life. There are many times where I wished I could go back and make the other choice, but those opportunities are gone now and there is no going back. You may come to a point where you have a choice between A and B, and it may seem like a small choice, but over the long term it can have drastic consequences. If you grew up watching Star Trek and other intellectual sci-fi series, then this will be an easy concept for you to understand. One decision can entirely alter the course of your timeline, narrowing multiple potential outcomes down to one, and you want it to be the best one because it will have sweeping effects over the rest of your life and beyond. The older you get, the more difficult it is to fix/compensate for your blunders, and the less time you have to make things right.
Make the right choices in the first place, make the frugal choices, and make the choices with the best long term sustainability. Be deliberate, analytical, and think through everything before making a decision. If you don’t know what to do in any given situation then ask an older person to help you think it through. Chances are they can help you dodge some serious pitfalls.