Yesterday I went to the bank, and it was one of those banks which are set up inside of a grocery store. The woman in charge at the time was dressed professionally, but one side of her hair went about three inches below her shoulder, and the other side was cut up to her jaw. If this were the first time I had ever seen something like this I would not deem it worth mentioning, but I have been seeing this a lot lately. Usually it’s black women who have one side of their hair much shorter than the other, as was the case yesterday, but I have also seen a few white women doing the same thing.
I don’t know who finds this attractive, or who told these women this was a good idea, but it looks both terrible and unprofessional. I never saw a hairstyle like that when I was growing up, not even during the most ridiculous hair period of the 80’s. The closest thing to that I ever saw growing up was the aftermath of when my sisters were toddlers and they used to cut each others’ hair, or their own. On an adult the hairstyle looks no less childish or unprofessional. I can’t help but wonder how much the women paid for that horrible hairstyle. I think the mentality is akin to whatever compelled a lot of girls to pay good money for jeans and pants that came with holes already in them. But I digress…
When I saw that hairstyle on someone in a management position, it dawned on me that women have a good deal more hair freedom than men. Of course there is no law which regulates hair in the US, and I would be thoroughly opposed to such a law (they do have such laws in Iran and North Korea), but there are social pressures which are nearly as restrictive as a law.
It seems that women can do whatever they want with their hair and not face any economic repercussions. They can cut one side short, they can cut it all short, they can shave part of it, or all of it, and none of this seems to affect their ability to get a job. On the other hand, a man is expected to have short hair, and if he doesn’t then his ability to get and hold a job is reduced. Men are socially required to have a modest or traditional hairstyle, but women are not. Why is that?
When one group in a society has a wider range of privileges than another it’s a clear indicator of power. Feminists say that men are in charge of everything due to their superior physical strength, and that we have “male privilege.” Their claims are not borne out by reality. First of all, most of the rulers are middle aged to very old, which means that physical strength is not a requisite for being in charge. Second, women actually have more privileges than men. Men have more responsibilities, but fewer privileges.
The increased hair freedom of women is just a superficial symptom of something which runs much deeper. Women have affirmative action on their side. If a man and a woman apply for the same job, the woman is more likely to get that job, even though she probably has less need of a job. Women can receive scholarships for being women. A man will never receive a scholarship for being a man, but he might get one for being black or Mexican. Women are able to take advantage of quotas for being women.
Women can choose to work or stay at home, and will face no stigma either way they decide. Women are the default custodians of children when a divorce occurs, even if the woman initiates the divorce. After the divorce, a woman can deny the man access to the children, yet still receive child support payments. Women can accuse men of rape, and the man is almost always presumed guilty until proven innocent based on that accusation alone.
Regulations such as “no means no” and “yes means yes” have been designed specifically to give women power over men in sexual matters. It is really much better for men not to have sex outside of marriage, because if a woman regrets it and accuses the man of rape then the legal and social impetus is in her favor.
If legal and social protections for each gender are weighed then things come out wantonly in favor of women. We do not have a patriarchal society, we have a gynocentric society and legal system. If I had my way I would restore the patriarchy. Things are actually much more balanced and orderly when men are in charge. But it is simply inaccurate to describe the conditions we live in as being weighted in favor of men.